The debate continues as to whether this is a conversation not said, not spoken, no had, not enjoyed, not engaged with, not entertained, not allowed, not welcomed, or just not existing. All of these describe the absent conversation, and each has its own connotation. The connotation that is actually received should be discussed to determine if it was the connotation intended. There's a missing conversation about the unintended connotation.

Here's a scenario:

What I understood you to mean really affected something in me, and the defenses want to be thrown up and argue, but I acknowledge this, give the benefit of the doubt, as get curious about this feeling, why it arose, and I seek further understanding with gentleness and compassion.

I began to formulate a thought about how being passionate to anger is not as effective as I might make it out to be. It is mildly effective, definitely not ineffective for some purposes. But it's those incorrect applications of anger and attack in the name of passion that I'd like to examine here. I need to learn how to be passionate.