I learned something today. This guy tells me that embarrassment is the most powerful human emotion.

I will say first that there is nothing to be embarrassed about. I do not think any less. I ask for honesty and openness.

I thought honesty showed respect. It might be that for some honesty feels like danger. There is no danger here. You are safe to be honest with me, and that's the heart of the problem I have been discussing.

I must be careful not to embarrass people. I see how I have done that. I did that. I caused embarrassment.

Dang, was I just raised different or what? How did I get so crazy?

I am writing this one and throwing it out there because I saw how my words caused embarrassment.

This guy says to me that if he called me out for lying, and he and I both knew I was lying, that I would deny it. He did seem to imply that I was lying about something without actually telling me I was lying. He didn't embarrass me. I would have loved for him to embarrass me.

In close relationships, it is important not to embarrass the other person. Was that why I was blamed for breaking things? Would the little girl who did break it be embarrassed and so she lied (talking about my childhood)? How do I say the thing without causing embarrassment?

There's a skill to learn. I will just call people out, and they get offended, or perhaps embarrassed. Is there a better way to not embarrass someone?

Compliments and questions, those are the thing. It feels fake to me. Is it fake if it works to get the result? It would be fake if the compliments were not true. It would possibly save the other person the embarrassment.

This is an interesting topic to explore. Have I been embarrassing people?